Life is full of choices. Do I take this path today or do I go another way? Do I have tea or do I have coffee? These are easy choices. Then we are faced on occasion with life changing choices. Do I take a new job or do I continue to do the same thing I have always done.
How do you make a choice?
When faced with an important choice, how do we know what is the right choice.
In the past three years I have been making a series of choices about my life and my business.
Some of the choices as you might imagine effect both equally. Being an artist entrepreneur, it is easy to see how some things effect each other. But now I am faced with a very large decision and the possibilities of the choices defy logical thought.
Moving one’s life.
When I was younger, my parents made a choice to move our family across the country
It was a major undertaking as there was six of us to move. They decided to do this to further our education and our lives. They didn’t know the outcome, they made a choice.
After college I moved to San Diego and it seemed daunting; I don’t know how my parents had the courage to make the family move. My move in comparison was simple.
I am now faced with another big move, do I stay where I am at or do I take a leap and make the move?
The choices we make.
As we go through life making choices, they effect other choices and we either grow or we cower. We learn too what the consequences of our choices are. However if we stand still and let others make our choices for us, this too is a choice.
I am of a mind to make my own choices, as I really think I am the best judge of how I would like my life to proceed. So I am doing the only really logical thing and making a list of the pros and cons of the decision.
When faced with a hard choice…
I have a method by which I work out major life choices. It works for me and it may help you next time you are faced with a choice. I write everything that comes into my head, the good the bad and the ugly. I start with a brain dump, every idea written down, then I put them into categories, pro or con.
Even this becomes a choice, what goes where, what goes on the list and how much weight does each item hold. I can see things more clearly and make the most informed choice I can.
Making your own choices is living your life the way you choose. There are times when you make the right choices for yourself and times you don’t. But if you are making your own choices, they are Yours.
So next time I may let you know what choices I have made, but I would love to hear how you decide your major life choices. Do you have a method? If so please share.
Until next time choose wisely.
Oh no – I DON’T want you to move, AND I want you to make the best possible decision for you. Since those two may well be at odds (or not), I choose to stick with the latter thought and support you in making the best possible decision for you.
I love to hear that you plan to make the choice yourself, and not just let it happen. It is YOUR life, and YOU have to (or better yet, GET to) make your own choices.
I like the way you are going about it – lists help. I will share 2 things I do that sometimes work for me – and they may or may not be helpful to you. The first I learned from my husband. It’s as easy as flipping a coin, except that the coin toss doesn’t make the decision – you do. I pick one of the choices to be heads, and one to be tails, then I flip the coin. But the important thing is to be very aware of your gut feeling when you see the choice – don’t think about it, just note it. Are you thrilled when heads comes up, or disappointed? That may help you tap into your intuition (or inner knowing, or gut, or whatever you call it).
The other thing I do also taps into my intuition. I can ask for a dream about it, or ask a question (either a specific question, or something more general like a request for more info that I may need to make the best decision) and be still for a bit (take a walk or meditate) and see what comes up from that.
I guess the bottom line is to listen to your own gut, inner wisdom, intuition, or whatever you want to call it. I offer it up not as something that will work for everyone, but as something that works for me and may help you.
Know that whatever you decide, it will be right for you!